How are you? You look well. Tell me what’s new. Really? It sounds like you’re carrying quite a burden on your shoulders. You stay so busy, no one would ever have known. True, we all have our problems. Some are manageable and some never are. You’re getting help? Yes, it’s expensive. If it’s providing some relief then it’s worth it. How’s your family responding? Kids need their routine. They like structure. They need to know where their stuff is and where they belong. And, your parents? They’re helpful, but they have their own concerns. I know you’re running. Go ahead. Call when you can.

            Hi! It’s good to see you. Mazel Tov. I heard the good news. But, you still look concerned. I can see it on your face. You’re not smiling like you have before. Transitions are difficult to navigate. What’s the hardest part? Being alone is noisier than you think, isn’t it? The floors creak louder than before; even the quiet of the kitchen sounds strangely louder than before. An empty nest means it’s just the two of you. It’s your time now. You’ll get to know each other all over again. Take care.

            There you are. I’m glad I could be helpful to you. Your loss was tremendous. The phone doesn’t ring like it used to; he’s not around the corner, is he. Are you getting out much? Do it on your time. They love you. They’re trying their best. Yes, I’ll visit with you again soon.

            I’m sorry. Job loss is never easy. They told you by email? I don’t blame you for feeling betrayed. What are your immediate needs? They’ll follow your lead. Time for honest talk has come. Time for a family plan will make everyone part of the solution. Kids are resilient when they feel helpful. It can be a new opportunity to change course or to rely on skills you haven’t used in a long time. You sound encouraged. You’re right; it will take some time. Your reserves are there for just this purpose. Your contacts and connections are part of your community; reach out to them. I’m always interested in your well-being.

            A new baby. Mazel Tov. How is she feeling? Resting. Good. And, you? It’s your first Shabbat as parents, as a family. Take your time. That’s a beautiful name. It will be an honor to welcome your new child with a blessing and words of hope for the future. My best to all of you. Get some rest. We’ll talk tomorrow.

            Found you sitting out here. You thought you could hide, didn’t you? You found a beautiful spot. The flowers. The trees. It’s a cool day. Words aren’t necessary. I’ll just be here with you, if you don’t mind. That’s what I understand. It’s good to hear you laugh a little. Don’t apologize. The prayers of your heart are the most important. They’re always heard.

            Yes, I’ve thought the same thing. Sometimes it would be easier if Shabbat came every two weeks. Then Shabbat comes and it’s clear why it’s needed every week. It’s time to put down our full plates, our agonies, our fears, our burdens, even our hopes and dreams. Just an hour to worship and a day to rest; to suspend our obligations and expectations would renew us. Time to pray is time to know we’re here for each other. No one is really alone. No one is without hope. Shabbat is here. Every one rests. Every thing rests. God rests, too.

            Shabbat Shalom.

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