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Rabbi Lyon's Blog - 01_18_2013
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From the desk of Rabbi David Lyon
January 18, 2013

 

My favorite seat in the family room is open. The leftovers in the refrigerator are still there. There's enough coffee in the pot for a second cup. The lights are off in rooms no one is using. The sink isn't full of dirty dishes. All of this means that our college-age children are back at school after winter vacation. We loved having them all home, really. But there is a new normal we've learned to welcome into our home between semesters or between vacations, depending on one's perspective.

                The new normal is also recognizing that they're on their way to their own homes, too. We still pay their bills, but they have their own apartments, schedules, eating habits, and preferences. Home with their parents is comfortable and convenient, but it's a stepping stone between being bound and being free. When they tell us it's "been a blast" and "thanks", we cherish their gratitude. We recognize that they’re in a hurry to return to the lives they’re building themselves. We still tear up a bit when they pull away in the cars we insure and register for them, on their way down the road toward 610. It's all part of a normal healthy process that means we're all growing up.

                But, don’t let me leave you with the impression that rearing children is a cake-walk. If we don’t struggle a little then we’re not doing it right. And, if we’re not finding humor in it then we’re not doing it right at all. My favorite definition of parenting young children is “putting your hands in things.” It happened once when we were invited to visit friends in their new home. We brought along the boys when they were just toddlers. Upstairs in their beautifully appointed game room, our oldest son turned to Lisa with that “greenish” look in his face she knew too well. Instantly, she put out both hands to catch everything he brought up for her to hold. With horror, she rushed to the sink at the bar to quickly wash away any evidence of his near-miss on the new carpet.

                Jewish humor, especially, captures the angst we feel as our children get bigger. Here’s a story about teenagers you can tell others:

 

                Two women, good friends, leave their teenagers at home for a few days and check into a fancy resort. Just before dinner, one of the women invites the other to join her in the bar for a martini.

                “I never drink,” the woman answers. “Why not?” the other asks.

                “In front of the children, I don’t think it’s right to drink. And when I’m away from the children, who needs to?”

 

And, when they finally become adults it doesn’t mean they’re also grown up. Sometimes, maturity eludes our children.

 

                A mother goes into her son’s room. “You’ve got to get up for school, Bernie.”

                Bernie pulls the blanket over his head. “I don’t wanna go to school.”

                “You have to go,” the mother says.

                “I don’t wanna. The teachers don’t like me and all the kids make fun of me.”

                The mother pulls the blanket down. “Bernie, you don’t have any choice. You have to go to school!”

                “Yeah,” Bernie says, “Give me one good reason!”

                “You’re 52 years old and you’re the principal.”

 

Jewish humor never lies and neither do the true feelings we have for our children. Give thanks for the blessings of your sons and daughters, and for your grandchildren, too. They grow up fast and not without love and affection for your all your efforts to do it right.

From my family to yours, Shabbat Shalom.

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